I dunno what it is about this song.. I just does things to my happy place. I can listen to it again and again, and often do. Hahhaa.. I am sure I will be sick of it soon the way I am OCD'ing on it.
Monday, June 25, 2012
Turn Me On - The Fray
I dunno what it is about this song.. I just does things to my happy place. I can listen to it again and again, and often do. Hahhaa.. I am sure I will be sick of it soon the way I am OCD'ing on it.
Who are you to judge?
Recently there was an article on News24 from a woman who calls herself the FridaFactor, called "I am a racist". Most of you will remember it, it went viral quite quickly. So I went to her blog and read some more of her stuff as I felt the article was spot on. She had said out loud a lot of what a lot of South Africans think about that topic, but wont voice. I thought "Bravo".
Then I got to an entry called "Where have all the real men gone?" and my blood ran cold! This is a woman with a partner and a child, and this is what she thought of women raising men! How archaic and undeserving we are to have received this judgement. So I replied to her post............
"After sharing your "I am Racist" post all over my Facebook & twitter, after sharing your inspirational blogs with my girlfriends, I am disappointed and disgusted to read your "Where have all the real men gone".
I am a single mom, and no I don't have to ask myself why I am upset, and wonder if I am scarring my son.. I am, as BOTH my still married parents scarred me. It's what parents do, it's a rite of passage, it's how we learn to do things better our turn around. I do not hate men, and I don't raise my son with any agenda to right the wrongs of hurts past.In fact I love men, and I love sex, and I can't wait to find a good man to share it with. Until then I will stand at the rugby field, at the side of the swimming pool, and at the fence of the tennis court, and wait patiently in the clubhouse for my son to finish his golf lesson. When he falls and hurts himself I will tell him to get up and walk it off. If he needs to learn to fish I will recruit an uncle or cousin to do so. I let him watch action movies, and ride his bike in the streets! He is very much a man's man, and I did that all by myself. A woman! A single mom!!! So don't sit there and judge and generalize, and throw generic accusations just to make yourself heard. Instead of blaming moms being to soft on their sons, ask yourself why those particular women choose to do that??
I am mature enough to realize that relationships end, and circumstances change. And so we get on with our lives, and stop laying blame at everybody elses feet. And I know that not all men are the same, and that I have more good relationships to look forward to. And this I teach my son. Treat all people kindly, and with respect, until they prove themselves unworthy of it. Be kind to animals. Admire beauty in the world, whether it be a pretty girl or an awesome skateboard maneuver, or even a flower. That does not make him a fop. It makes him a caring individual. And it doesn't make me an overbearing, pussy whipping mother.
It's always hard to be tough on your child, but I do that because he is a boy. And how I raise him worries me every day, and I hope to god that I do right by him. Then you come, and you judge me, and you make unfair statements, which are not even true to my situation. Yet they hurt, and they erode just a teensy bit of my mothering confidence, because now I wonder where this came from for you, and am I doing the right thing, and am I a good enough mother??? All this, just because you couldn't keep one ugly, unfair, unsubstantial claim of knowledge to yourself.
Thank you for telling me that as a single mom to a boy I am already disadvantaging him. Even though staying with his dad, to make him the "man" you want him to be, would mean a lifetime of unhappiness for all of us. And no, my ex is not a bad man, and we are still friends, and I did not end up as a resentful bitter women who is now out to teach all men a lesson starting with my own flesh and blood!
As a mother yourself, don't you feel you are being unfair. Just because you have a daughter it makes your situation better and easier than mine? Would it be better for me to give up my child to a someone who can't care for him as a child should be looked after at this stage, JUST because he has a penis and I don't? What kind of mother gives up her child for that reason alone in any case?
Like I said. I may have a son, and I may have a vagina.. But it means fuck all at the end of the day when you are doing a proper job of raising whatever gender child you have. If you make the choice to go it on your own, then already you have chosen to step up to the plate, and do what needs to be done.
The very same argument could be made for inter-racial adoptions. What does the one race know about raising the other? Or would asking you to write about that make me racist?"
Then I got to an entry called "Where have all the real men gone?" and my blood ran cold! This is a woman with a partner and a child, and this is what she thought of women raising men! How archaic and undeserving we are to have received this judgement. So I replied to her post............
"After sharing your "I am Racist" post all over my Facebook & twitter, after sharing your inspirational blogs with my girlfriends, I am disappointed and disgusted to read your "Where have all the real men gone".
I am a single mom, and no I don't have to ask myself why I am upset, and wonder if I am scarring my son.. I am, as BOTH my still married parents scarred me. It's what parents do, it's a rite of passage, it's how we learn to do things better our turn around. I do not hate men, and I don't raise my son with any agenda to right the wrongs of hurts past.In fact I love men, and I love sex, and I can't wait to find a good man to share it with. Until then I will stand at the rugby field, at the side of the swimming pool, and at the fence of the tennis court, and wait patiently in the clubhouse for my son to finish his golf lesson. When he falls and hurts himself I will tell him to get up and walk it off. If he needs to learn to fish I will recruit an uncle or cousin to do so. I let him watch action movies, and ride his bike in the streets! He is very much a man's man, and I did that all by myself. A woman! A single mom!!! So don't sit there and judge and generalize, and throw generic accusations just to make yourself heard. Instead of blaming moms being to soft on their sons, ask yourself why those particular women choose to do that??
I am mature enough to realize that relationships end, and circumstances change. And so we get on with our lives, and stop laying blame at everybody elses feet. And I know that not all men are the same, and that I have more good relationships to look forward to. And this I teach my son. Treat all people kindly, and with respect, until they prove themselves unworthy of it. Be kind to animals. Admire beauty in the world, whether it be a pretty girl or an awesome skateboard maneuver, or even a flower. That does not make him a fop. It makes him a caring individual. And it doesn't make me an overbearing, pussy whipping mother.
It's always hard to be tough on your child, but I do that because he is a boy. And how I raise him worries me every day, and I hope to god that I do right by him. Then you come, and you judge me, and you make unfair statements, which are not even true to my situation. Yet they hurt, and they erode just a teensy bit of my mothering confidence, because now I wonder where this came from for you, and am I doing the right thing, and am I a good enough mother??? All this, just because you couldn't keep one ugly, unfair, unsubstantial claim of knowledge to yourself.
Thank you for telling me that as a single mom to a boy I am already disadvantaging him. Even though staying with his dad, to make him the "man" you want him to be, would mean a lifetime of unhappiness for all of us. And no, my ex is not a bad man, and we are still friends, and I did not end up as a resentful bitter women who is now out to teach all men a lesson starting with my own flesh and blood!
As a mother yourself, don't you feel you are being unfair. Just because you have a daughter it makes your situation better and easier than mine? Would it be better for me to give up my child to a someone who can't care for him as a child should be looked after at this stage, JUST because he has a penis and I don't? What kind of mother gives up her child for that reason alone in any case?
Like I said. I may have a son, and I may have a vagina.. But it means fuck all at the end of the day when you are doing a proper job of raising whatever gender child you have. If you make the choice to go it on your own, then already you have chosen to step up to the plate, and do what needs to be done.
The very same argument could be made for inter-racial adoptions. What does the one race know about raising the other? Or would asking you to write about that make me racist?"
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